It's been so long since I've written anything on here, for here, or even thought about posting. Well, that's a lie, I've thought about posting and I've been upset with myself for not making the time to prioritize. How do so many do it, and I couldn't make it work? The truth is, I got a new job, and the affect it took on me, was something I wasn't expecting truthfully. I'm thankful I have a job, especially considering I got laid off twice in one year, but it's been a lot on me.
With that said, the retrograde has not been helpful in this situation either. I have been an emotional wreck the past couple weeks and my emotions have really come out. I have cried, I have screamed, I have ran off the anger at the gym, and sulked in emotions while taking a bath. You might be asking, why am I talking to you guys about this? Where are you going with this subject and topic?
Well, the truth is, I wasn't sure what I was going to write about, considering it's been so long and my mind has been so cluttered with emotions. But then it hit me while writing this, I'm going to write my first official self care post. It's been a long time coming, and I talk about it all the time, so it only makes sense it finally get's executed.
So, what's self care you might ask? Well, considering it's different for me every time, it's honestly all about how you make time for yourself. I know this might sound ridiculous and truthfully, I used to think the same thing. But looking back, I used to do self care without even realizing it.
So what are my favorite ways of implementing self care? I'll tell you!
Honestly, this is such an underrated self care. I know that a good majority of you may not be bath people, but realistically, you should implement it into your lifestyle at least once a month. I used to always think of baths, as ways to stop being sick. Not realizing that that was in fact, SELF CARE. I've always been a bath lover, and go all out. From bubbles, to bath bombs, to candles and a book, a long with my beverage of choice.
Not only does taking a bath help in clearing your mind, but given what type of products you use in your bath, it'll help your body. I use Himalayan salt in my, which actually helps in detoxing your body and energy field. It releases toxins and negative energy into the bathwater. Lastly, the benefits of the minerals in the salt are absorbed through the skin. It also allows me to have me time, and I am constantly amazed at how much I meditate while taking a bath. I allow my eyes to close, allow the silence to engulf me, and just clear my mind of all the things I am worried, angry, or upset about. I know not everyone has this type of control, but it does become a natural habit.
Most of you who follow me, know that I've been pushing myself to read one book a month. Up until July, I had read one book each month. Given that this last month has been a lot on me, I missed finishing the book, but it won't stop me from finishing it, and finishing my August book. Having set this rule has pushed me to read books I've owned for years, and never finished, or never even got started on. It's also allowing me time to myself. My favorite way to read is actually during my lunch break at work, so I'm not mindlessly scrolling through social media. I read outside, which allows me to be in nature, and escape.
Reading has always been a favorite past time of mine. It brings me into another universe, helps me de-stress, and allows me to live the life of another person. I get to indulge in romantic story lines, get to meet badass characters, and grow either love or hatred for the story line and it's characters. It distracts me from any bad shit I have going on in life, and allows me to escape. Now that's self care in the easiest and simplest form. You probably just never realized it.
Yes, I'm going to say it just like everyone else says it. But it's true. And I'm someone who is constantly preaching, but rarely doing. Don't get me wrong, I actually enjoy working out and allowing all the aggravation from the day, be released on the treadmill, or the mat. But sometimes it's easier said than done. I'm about to make excuses, and writing this down only showcases that I have let myself resent this form of self care. I haven't had time, NO, I haven't MADE time. And that's the issue with a lot of people.
Once you get back into it, once you release all the stress, and feel the weight come off your shoulders, you ask yourself why you stopped to begin with. Trust me, I know....we all get into slumps, and often never get out of it. But this type of self care is so important because it's not just a physical form of self care, but a very severe and helpful tool into helping mentally and emotionally. You all know what I'm talking about. That says it all.
This is something I struggle with, even though I'm mentioning it. I try to meditate, or take time to just breath and relax, as much as possible, but honestly, it's the last thing on my list. I used to be extremely into lighting candles, listening to music, and just allowing the moment to consume me. Allow my mind to just BE. But it's been harder and harder as I get older, and honestly, now that I live with my partner. This isn't anything against him, on the contrary, he actually pushes me to incorporate this more often.
So lately, I've been lighting incense in the morning as I get ready for work. I make my matcha, and allow my daily tasks and routines, to be less robotic, and more focused on me and my well being. At times, when I'm driving, I just take a big deep breath, and sigh. This is something I loved so much about yoga, and honestly, I need to get back to it. It helped me meditate in ways I didn't think counted. Like listening to my favorite song, or lying on the floor with my eyes closed, and lastly, just by being still, in a moment. Incorporate meditation one way or another, however you see fits into your routine.
Now, this one is a tough one, because there are SSSOOO many ways this can be done. I'm not saying you need to go to a lavish location, I'm saying implement in any way that seems to suit you. If you go on a weekend getaway with your partner, and explore the city, go hiking, and eat new and interesting food, that's self care. If you go visit your friend who lives 2 hours away, and you just watch a movie on the couch, that's self care. If you book a cabin, and just lay in bed all weekend, that's self care.
It's honestly the little things, that truly make a difference, and I think that people often take the not only for granted, but don't realize the affect it has on a person. Self care is all about taking care of you, and if that means calling out of work sick, and having a 'vacation' day at home, so be it. What you are getting a vacation from, is all the chaos. A vacation is a moment to get away, and to just breath. Make sure you don't forget that.
Lastly, I just want to emphasize that self care is different for every one. There are days where self care for me is: taking a shower, putting on makeup, doing my nails, cleaning the house, listening to music or even dancing my butt off to my favorite song. Some things are more tedious for others. And some tasks are really hard for many.
I'm not saying do everything on this list, what I'm saying is allow yourself to take care of yourself, in whichever way you choose.
Now tell me, what's your favorite way to self care?